Coffee Chat
These Chats are mean't to be a tool to help those who are struggling with specific problems. Change is necessary in a Christians life. God never expects us to stay like we are, but He expects us to grow more like Christ every day. It is a life long process that He takes us through, and that process begins at our conversion. Through the help of the Holy Spirit and His word, He will empower us during this process of change, but we must do our part. (Romans 8:13, Galatians 2:20, Phillippians 2:12-13) It is important that as Christians we understand that true change cannot take place simply by stopping a bad habit. True change takes place when we not only stop the bad habit, but replace it. This is a key biblical principle throughout the Bible. In Ephesians 4:22-24 this process is clearly defined.
Anger
Proverbs 16:32 “Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city.”(NIV) A warrior is always well known and sometimes very famous when he conquers a city, but a patient man is not known at all sometimes, but he can accomplish more through practicing patience and self-control. We have a duty as Christians to try to change our sinful behavior to a righteous behavior, so that we can be pleasing to God. That should be our main goal as we continue with life here on earth. In Proverbs 16:7 “When a man’s ways are pleasing to the Lord, he makes even his enemies live at peace with him.”(NIV) Praise be to the King of Kings!
This month we have gone through different ways to learn how to put away sinful anger, above is just one more. I hope this has been helpful for you to overcome this kind of behavior, I know it was for me. Stay with us through each month as we dive into God’s word with a different topic and learn to become more pleasing and honoring in our lives to Him.
“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.” ( Proverbs 29:11) There are many verses that speak to us about getting angry. It is clear that God wants us to be a people of self control, a people who are wise to know the difference and a people whose heart is ready to please Him at all times. When we choose to ignore what God wants us to do, we are in rebellion against the Holy One and we do extensive damage to the body of Christ. This is just one of many reasons people do not take the church seriously any more.
Let me give you hope! “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation, the old has gone, the new has come.” (2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV) If you know Christ, then this kind of behavior should and can be put away because that is part of your old self. Then praise God because He has made you a new creation and given you the tools to put away this old behavior and put on the new ways. 1 Corinthians 10:13 says: “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.” (NIV) What more can be said! God truly cares about what we are going through, even when it is battling our own sinful nature. So much so that He will not let us “be tempted beyond what we can bear”…and when we are, He has given us a “way to stand up under it.” What more hope do we need? So this week…let’s practice at being wise and self-controlled, take these verses with you and use them, utter them whenever you need an extra boost to be self-controlled. Remember, God has given you a way to stand up under it!
This week let’s talk a little more about anger. Proverbs 15:18 says: A hot tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel
What good is it to be hot tempered? Here God is telling us that this kind of anger will only give us grief. That it can only cause a dissension. Dissension will separate people and leave bitterness and strife, but a patient man calms a quarrel! Here again God is showing us what we can replace it with. By learning to be patient instead of blowing up all the time, you could actually be the one who calms another brother or sister in Christ who struggles with this kind of anger. Wouldn’t that be a better place to be in? Practice, practice, practice the righteousness of God and you will never be disappointed.
As believers we have the Word of God to rely on, to be our guide for life. All we have to do is open it, read it, talk to God about it and ask Him to teach us to apply it to our lives in a practical way.
This week write down some ways that you can apply being patient in a way that is pleasing and honoring to God, then use it. Plan ahead and don’t get in a situation where you feel you have to give in to this kind of behavior. One way that helps me a lot is to write the verse down and take it with me where ever I go, eventually I memorize and there it stays! In my heart! “I will hide your word in my heart, so that I might not sin against you.”( Psalms 119:11 NASB)
This week let’s talk a little about getting angry with a spouse all the time. Since we are creatures of habit we tend to get in a rut where sometimes being unkind to our spouse has become easier than trying to work at fixing it. But if we want a marriage that has a quality that only you, your spouse and God understands, then rolling up your sleeves and working hard at it seems to be the only real logical thing to do. And you will find, is pleasing to God.
So…are you getting angry with your spouse over little things? And putting your hands in the air and saying; this is just the way I am! That is not only an insult to you but an insult to God. Being hot tempered is a sinful behavior not a personality trait! Learning to put away “all bitterness, rage and anger,“ is clearly something God expects us to do, even with our spouse. God wants us to put these habits away and be forgiving and kind to not only our neighbor, but to our spouse. The more we practice the good habits, the easier it becomes.
This week, do something kind for your spouse every day. Something they might not expect you to do. Go out of your way if you need to, but do it! God will be pleased and so will your spouse!
Ephesians 4:31-32 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other just as in Christ God forgave you.
When we explode about something or lose our temper with loved ones, we should stop and ask ourselves; Is this pleasing to God? The answer would most definitely be, no. We can also expect others not to take us seriously about our love for the Lord. So what can we do when we find ourselves in a place where we keep losing our temper?
It is not enough to just stop the behavior. We must learn to replace the bad behavior with a righteous behavior that is pleasing to God. We should learn to be self controlled, forgive others and be kind. In other words, we should stop the anger then replace it by being kind and forgiving. It sounds easy enough, right? Not necessarily. It can be very challenging to change a behavior that has become a habit. But with hard work and a repentful heart the results can be very rewarding. You will also find that you can be pleasing to God by doing so.
God’s word says: Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other just as in Christ God forgave you. (Ephesians 4:31-32) Here you can plainly see how the Lord expects us to put away these things and put on the good things.
Anger
Proverbs 16:32 “Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city.”(NIV) A warrior is always well known and sometimes very famous when he conquers a city, but a patient man is not known at all sometimes, but he can accomplish more through practicing patience and self-control. We have a duty as Christians to try to change our sinful behavior to a righteous behavior, so that we can be pleasing to God. That should be our main goal as we continue with life here on earth. In Proverbs 16:7 “When a man’s ways are pleasing to the Lord, he makes even his enemies live at peace with him.”(NIV) Praise be to the King of Kings!
This month we have gone through different ways to learn how to put away sinful anger, above is just one more. I hope this has been helpful for you to overcome this kind of behavior, I know it was for me. Stay with us through each month as we dive into God’s word with a different topic and learn to become more pleasing and honoring in our lives to Him.
“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.” ( Proverbs 29:11) There are many verses that speak to us about getting angry. It is clear that God wants us to be a people of self control, a people who are wise to know the difference and a people whose heart is ready to please Him at all times. When we choose to ignore what God wants us to do, we are in rebellion against the Holy One and we do extensive damage to the body of Christ. This is just one of many reasons people do not take the church seriously any more.
Let me give you hope! “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation, the old has gone, the new has come.” (2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV) If you know Christ, then this kind of behavior should and can be put away because that is part of your old self. Then praise God because He has made you a new creation and given you the tools to put away this old behavior and put on the new ways. 1 Corinthians 10:13 says: “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.” (NIV) What more can be said! God truly cares about what we are going through, even when it is battling our own sinful nature. So much so that He will not let us “be tempted beyond what we can bear”…and when we are, He has given us a “way to stand up under it.” What more hope do we need? So this week…let’s practice at being wise and self-controlled, take these verses with you and use them, utter them whenever you need an extra boost to be self-controlled. Remember, God has given you a way to stand up under it!
This week let’s talk a little more about anger. Proverbs 15:18 says: A hot tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel
What good is it to be hot tempered? Here God is telling us that this kind of anger will only give us grief. That it can only cause a dissension. Dissension will separate people and leave bitterness and strife, but a patient man calms a quarrel! Here again God is showing us what we can replace it with. By learning to be patient instead of blowing up all the time, you could actually be the one who calms another brother or sister in Christ who struggles with this kind of anger. Wouldn’t that be a better place to be in? Practice, practice, practice the righteousness of God and you will never be disappointed.
As believers we have the Word of God to rely on, to be our guide for life. All we have to do is open it, read it, talk to God about it and ask Him to teach us to apply it to our lives in a practical way.
This week write down some ways that you can apply being patient in a way that is pleasing and honoring to God, then use it. Plan ahead and don’t get in a situation where you feel you have to give in to this kind of behavior. One way that helps me a lot is to write the verse down and take it with me where ever I go, eventually I memorize and there it stays! In my heart! “I will hide your word in my heart, so that I might not sin against you.”( Psalms 119:11 NASB)
This week let’s talk a little about getting angry with a spouse all the time. Since we are creatures of habit we tend to get in a rut where sometimes being unkind to our spouse has become easier than trying to work at fixing it. But if we want a marriage that has a quality that only you, your spouse and God understands, then rolling up your sleeves and working hard at it seems to be the only real logical thing to do. And you will find, is pleasing to God.
So…are you getting angry with your spouse over little things? And putting your hands in the air and saying; this is just the way I am! That is not only an insult to you but an insult to God. Being hot tempered is a sinful behavior not a personality trait! Learning to put away “all bitterness, rage and anger,“ is clearly something God expects us to do, even with our spouse. God wants us to put these habits away and be forgiving and kind to not only our neighbor, but to our spouse. The more we practice the good habits, the easier it becomes.
This week, do something kind for your spouse every day. Something they might not expect you to do. Go out of your way if you need to, but do it! God will be pleased and so will your spouse!
Ephesians 4:31-32 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other just as in Christ God forgave you.
When we explode about something or lose our temper with loved ones, we should stop and ask ourselves; Is this pleasing to God? The answer would most definitely be, no. We can also expect others not to take us seriously about our love for the Lord. So what can we do when we find ourselves in a place where we keep losing our temper?
It is not enough to just stop the behavior. We must learn to replace the bad behavior with a righteous behavior that is pleasing to God. We should learn to be self controlled, forgive others and be kind. In other words, we should stop the anger then replace it by being kind and forgiving. It sounds easy enough, right? Not necessarily. It can be very challenging to change a behavior that has become a habit. But with hard work and a repentful heart the results can be very rewarding. You will also find that you can be pleasing to God by doing so.
God’s word says: Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other just as in Christ God forgave you. (Ephesians 4:31-32) Here you can plainly see how the Lord expects us to put away these things and put on the good things.
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